Everyone loves Fridays. It’s usually the day we wait for, especially me cause it’s my day off lol. But even before then Friday held a magical spark for me, the day where I could take a sigh of relief as I prepared for a weekend of rest and relaxation. Maybe get a manicure or a pedicure ( before the pandemic of course) or take the kids out for a movie after a grueling week of slavish work and constant schedules. We love Fridays because it symbolizes a break from the mundane, a chance to stop and smell the roses. And a lot like we love Fridays, everyone loves Venus♥♥♥
I started this post a few years ago when Jupiter was moving into Libra (2016-2017), so understand that some of this information has been adapted for the current time frame and will be examined in retrospect after having observed the energy.
I remember in a previous Pisces reading talking about how the transit energy seemed to be saying that so many of us just want to move on into new scenarios, new lifestyles, new relationships, while still not having cut ties with the scenarios and relationships we don’t want, and I felt that Jupiter was holding us accountable. Looking back I can also observe that the collective has been held accountable for the things we hold onto in general, those things that weigh on our heart that we run from, hoping we will find solace elsewhere.
So while this is a post about Venus, this is more than a post on admiring beautiful things, having a lot of sex or feeling like you’re the next contestant on the Bachelor. Venus ultimately makes us look at the heart and compare what we hold within to what we are chasing after in an effort to avoid what’s within us, even if it’s only Self-Love and Self-Acceptance. To see the beauty in all things, even the gritty flaws and blemishes (metaphorically and physically) that we feel have no place or room in the picture perfect image we would like to portray. The deeper side of Venus.
Venus rules 2 signs and houses in the zodiac: Taurus (the 2nd house of money values and material increase) and Libra (the 7th house of partnerships, contracts & negotiations, and basic relations with others).
Venus herself represents the feminine principle in life, which is all about values and negotiations. For instance, beauty is subjective to the person, which is where individual Venus signs come in to play on how the energy is expressed. But the energy itself represents expressing and sharing appreciation for something you see as valuable or desirable. To each his own.
Friday is usually the day that we want to enjoy ourselves and relax. We want to be free to experience and appreciate things that make us feel good. A lot of people get paid on Fridays, and Venus represents money and material gains. Or you plan your vacations to start on Friday cause the energy just feels right to get that head start. It’s when we want to fulfill our desires.
In observing my own experience with this I remember when I started $7 Fridays. In one way I was working with the energy by creating a weekly special on a day where:
1 I didn’t have scheduled plans or readings
2 I wanted to see increase in profits
3 It was an expression of me giving back to the people that supported my channel by giving them affordable options.
As time went on it occurred to me that Venus wasn’t pleased with this because although my heart was in the right place I had devalued the whole purpose to begin with. Meaning by staying at that level it was no longer special, it became common place and lower value.
There is a Youtuber I would occasionally watch when I was considering van life as an alternative (don’t judge me I was tryna get out of paying rent for a little while lol) DIY Solar Power with Will Prowse. He was talking about how he had wrote this book about how he healed his body from some ailments he was dealing with. He gave the book away for free on Amazon and nobody downloaded it. He finally realized it wasn’t because the content was bad, just that nobody appreciated it because he was giving it away. To them, it had no value. He put a price on it and immediately he started getting more views and shares and I think now he’s written 3 books so far.
Sidenote: He has currently changed the format of his channel to solely focus on Solar Power and he is doing amazing! But the video I’m referencing is no longer up. However his book I’m talking about
Anyway his story inspired me to reconsider value and if I was in fact devaluing myself and my craft by offering the readings at a lower price. This also began to be exposed to me in experiences I was having with people where I was giving a lot, because that’s my nature as a person who just likes to help people. But after constantly being disrespected by people I helped, assisted, and protected it occurred to me that maybe I was going about this the wrong way.
I had considered the alternative, flipping the script and refusing to give in certain situations and scenarios. I observed those who were masters at the art of using Venus to their benefit and considered if there was more I could learn. The dark side of Venus, self-centeredness and I expect the best of everything because the world revolves around me is obviously a reality, and usually why Venus gets a bad rap. It’s a lot easier to express this energy because you don’t have to question yourself or your morals. Whatever benefits you is law.
But I constantly found myself in conflicting situations where things others said were okay to do I just couldn’t follow through with, even if there was some supposed pay off on the other end. This was also during the time I was in therapy trying to understand why I was going through so much…it finally occurred to me there is a balance. This is probably around the time frame $7 Fridays became $11 Fridays as an expression of Balance and Justice in the name of value.
As I let go of what others valued and stopped comparing myself to that, I started to focus more on what was valuable to me. Understanding this about myself allowed me to live more in the moment, because as long as what I valued was met the rest was irrelevant. But I also learned to stop sacrificing myself in situations where there is no benefit or reciprocation of any kind. Then making sacrifices based on what benefits were there and what value they held in my life.
This started with bigger things, like what I valued to make me feel secure like a home, steady income, a place where I could finally settle down and not want to move again. This later would spill over into other areas of my life like my career goals long-term, what constitutes as success, and ultimately relationships of all kinds.
As I considered everything the one question I mainly found myself asking was not whether these things had value, but whether they saw value in me. How was this value expressed, was it equal to the value I saw in the relationship, was I giving equally as well or was I taking too much. Had I taken too much and lost value and did that make the relationship not worth saving anymore. Had this person taken too much and was I willing to invest anything more and if so why? What purpose did these things hold that I had given value to having in my life?
Relationships are a bit trickier because value or devalue isn’t always recognized as quickly, so you may not notice who you are to someone until one day…you just can’t ignore it. Whether it’s a job that ignores your concerns, or a friend who ignores your calls in times of crisis. They all reflect back to your place in a certain situation at that time. And then you have to consider how you have attributed to your own “price-tag” so-to-speak.
For me the answer has been to let go of that attachment altogether. I no longer give with expectation because it has no purpose. If I give it’s already gone before it’s received by another. If I love it’s while acknowledging that the love may never be returned but that doesn’t mean I’m still not worth it. And to stop giving value to situations and scenarios that devalue me in any shape or form.
Of course that’s MY perspective of devalue, I am not insinuating anything having to do with a woman’s sexuality. Let ya freak flag fly honey just make sure you enjoy yourself first LOL. But if you give your body to someone who you value and this person doesn’t value you, the exchange is not equal so know that something has been “taken” in some way, and those devaluing attachments only leave you feeling less than when you first gave yourself to the person. So from that perspective I wouldn’t advise letting ya fake freakbutnotreallyiminlove flag fly cause it’s usually just a mess. Yeah I said it.
Letting go of the ideas of what I’m supposed to be valuing and learning what I truly value outside of society’s rules led me to having a better understanding of myself. Yet the heart chakra remains blocked. If not blocked it’s definitely smoggy in there lol.
I’m sure it has more to do with the disappointment of coming to a stage in life I often find myself. Stable financially yet socially isolated. And I know a lot of us are now, but just know that for me quarantine has been my life the most part for the past 7 years so it don’t phase me, except now I have to wear a mask LOL.
Yet whenever I have gone on this quest to meet new people or expand my social life it usually results in financial loss and still being isolated. So I’ve just decided that one is better than the other, not just because of the money but because acquiring stability is an expression of my value and love for my family and it’s more important than any other social connections or desire for companionship.
Definitely not worth the risk of losing stability again…and I guess in that I do realize what I truly value and I am committed to in my life. My family. It’s small and unorganized and sometimes it’s chaotic and stressful. But it’s my tribe, it’s my pack and I have to lead it. And if I value my tribe and I want better for them then I must value myself to give better to them.
I guess this also explains why I stopped my Friday Venus specials. Venus said so 🙂
How have you guys experienced the energy from this transit since 2017 and what revelations have you had about love and what you truly value?